Online you vs. the Real you
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The internet is an amazing thing. Social media is an awesome way to share and stay in touch with friends and family, especially if they are far away or you don’t see them often. But these things can get you in trouble if you’re not careful. We tend to get a little more “ballsy” when talking on a computer or mobile device.
Do you notice that you act different online compared to real life? I know I can be a little more free with what I share on Facebook, but in person I can be super shy and quiet. And freeze up when trying to come up with small talk.
I guess when facing your computer screen you can forget you are actually talking to or about a real human being. We just need to take a step back, and think, would I say this in person? Could I really say this to someone’s face?
Nowadays, it’s like we think anything and everything is worth sharing. No matter who it may hurt. Like it’s OK to point out flaws or shame someone for their body or something stupid they did. Unfortunately, I am guilty of this…. with celebrities. Yes, they are people too!
We are all flawed in someway and to point someone else’s flaws out won’t make your flaws go away. We all have made mistakes or did something stupid in our past. And will definitely make mistakes and do something stupid in the future (What? Me? No way!).
I know I overshare on Facebook. But I like to at least try to share fun or happy stuff. I try not to be a Debbie Downer. (Sorry Debbie! Your name just fits!) And anything controversial? For. Get. It!!!! I am so not confrontational. I will avoid it as much as possible. No thanks. Yes, I’m a scaredy cat. I’ll stick to my happy little bubble over here with the rainbows and unicorns. Want to join me?
I just don’t get how people think it’s ok to bash other people so harshly? For the whole world to see? Do you feel even a little guilty? I’m not saying I’m in any way innocent. Everyone thinks bad things about people at some point. I just choose to not say it out loud. Or I tell my hubs who isn’t listening anyway.
Just remember there is a person on the other side of that picture or post. Someone who has feelings.
And cyber bullying just baffles me. I don’t get it at all. When I read some of these stories involving kids. KIDS!! What are they thinking?? Are parents aware at all? Do we blame the parents? The kids? The internet? Ug. It breaks my heart to know some kids… actually take this to heart… and harm themselves. Makes me want to never let my kids get anything like Facebook or Snapchat, till they are 30… or 40.
Just try to teach those kiddos the rights and wrongs of the internet. How there is a person on the other side. Ask them if they would say it in person. Or are they hiding behind their computer?
Don’t let them be mean or bully.
I know, kids will be kids. There’s a pecking order and cliques. But hopefully we can teach a little more kindness. Guide those kiddos to learn empathy.
Are you able to be the real you online?
Until next time….